Becoming whole through family life. Desserts help.
Club baseball is crazy rough and tumble. Teams are brutal in how they cream the best prospects, quickly dumping players who don’t perform. Franchises run like slick costly machines. Some take their wins through brute strength, out-slugging mere mortals. Others are the opposite, focusing on a strong defense. Most coaches are intense, capable, and good sports. Some are absolutely, positively the worst examples of manhood with their cheating, bullying, and disrespectful ways. It really is frustrating how often the bad guys win.
Heading to his first game with a new club team, my seventeen year old son was stoked. He announced, “I’m going in confident.” Then he killed it on the baseball field. His post game text read “I went 4-4 at the plate all singles, 3 rbi, 3 runs scored! In the field was great 4-4 all grounders one was a diver! Be home soon.” After months of injury rehabilitation, fitness training, and years of hitting lessons, he rejoiced, “Things are finally clicking!” My kid kicked it.
Club baseball is a micro version of real life. Like Dickens shared, it is the best of times and the worst of times. How does one face such a conundrum? My son is right, we need to go in confident. This confidence isn’t a false bravado, although some swagger can help. True confidence is based on reality. I must be confident in my worthiness as a person, my hard work to master skills, and my crystal clear values. This confidence translates into mental toughness.
One of my sweet indulgences, The Voice, showcases mental toughness on a stage. From my amateur observation what separates the winners from losers of each round is the way they exude or don’t exude personal confidence. All the contestants have incredible voices, each with a unique quality, style, and passion. Each has worked hard to master their skill. That is reality. Yet, some falter in spite of these facts and it shows. Some may stumble in confidence because they are young, inexperienced, or lack clarity of their values or goals, which is especially understandable when facing millions of people! Yet those who own that stage are winners.
As Yogi Berra quipped, “Ninety percent of this game is half-mental.” And life is the biggest hardball game of them all.
Gray Strip Earned: Go in confident.