My Gray Stripes

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Hardball life

Club baseball is crazy rough and tumble. Teams are brutal in how they cream the best prospects, quickly dumping players who don’t perform. Franchises run like slick costly machines. Some take their wins through brute strength, out-slugging mere mortals. Others are the opposite, focusing on a strong defense. Most coaches are intense, capable, and good sports. Some are absolutely, positively the worst examples of manhood with their cheating, bullying, and disrespectful ways. It really is frustrating how often the bad guys win.

Heading to his first game with a new club team, my seventeen year old son was stoked. He announced, “I’m going in confident.” Then he killed it on the baseball field. His post game text read “I went 4-4 at the plate all singles, 3 rbi, 3 runs scored! In the field was great 4-4 all grounders one was a diver! Be home soon.” After months of injury rehabilitation, fitness training, and years of hitting lessons, he rejoiced, “Things are finally clicking!” My kid kicked it.

Club baseball is a micro version of real life. Like Dickens shared, it is the best of times and the worst of times. How does one face such a conundrum? My son is right, we need to go in confident. This confidence isn’t a false bravado, although some swagger can help. True confidence is based on reality. I must be confident in my worthiness as a person, my hard work to master skills, and my crystal clear values. This confidence translates into mental toughness.

One of my sweet indulgences, The Voice, showcases mental toughness on a stage. From my amateur observation what separates the winners from losers of each round is the way they exude or don’t exude personal confidence. All the contestants have incredible voices, each with a unique quality, style, and passion. Each has worked hard to master their skill. That is reality. Yet, some falter in spite of these facts and it shows. Some may stumble in confidence because they are young, inexperienced, or lack clarity of their values or goals, which is especially understandable when facing millions of people! Yet those who own that stage are winners.

As Yogi Berra quipped, “Ninety percent of this game is half-mental.” And life is the biggest hardball game of them all.

Gray Strip Earned: Go in confident.


5 comments on “Hardball life

  1. NancyP
    November 15, 2012

    “Mental toughness on a stage” – I need to have Dancing Daughter read this blog post! She is ready for the next step forward/upward in her competitive dancing effort, and mental toughness – “Going in confident” – can help her get where she wants to go.
    I think we need mental toughness in everyday life, too – how easy would it be to walk away from someone else’s emergency, to avoid returning a lost item to some random customer in the store you happen to be in, to assign responsibility for problems to people who might or might not be in charge, to assume everything we’re reading online is true…

    Instead, we’re called to stand up and step up. Be the honest citizen. Help your neighbor (translation: call for help). Speak up. Most importantly, step up. Check facts and teach young people to do the same. Actions, not words, prevail when you are trying to teach young people about important things.

    • angiemc6
      November 28, 2012

      Nancy, thanks so much for your thoughtful comments, as always, and expanding on my point. Right now our family is coming to the end of a major 10 day project. Mental toughness is our friend, keeping us strong to the end! Our best to Dancing Daughter, always 🙂

  2. Marianne Burnham
    November 15, 2012

    Loved your post…and I so agree about mental toughness no matter what. I love The Voice. The coaches, the artists, the advice the coaches give is so spot on I cannot even tell you! May you and yours be blessed!

    • angiemc6
      November 28, 2012

      Good to see you, Marianne! Your feedback means a lot considering your family experience in the entertainment industry. Thanks too for you well wishes. May you and yours be blessed abundantly ❤

  3. jubileejourney
    March 3, 2013

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